IS STRESS TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE?

 My nerves are shot. I can not take it anymore. What does everyone expect of me? Does this sound familiar to you?

It might not be obvious to you but stress is taking charge of your life when you or someone you know is saying these words.

HOW CAN WE CONTROL STRESS

Stop and think, turn it around and say to your self, I will not allow stress to come into my life and control my life. No one expects you to do more than you can do. Are you expecting more of yourself than anyone else is expecting. 

You need to relax and calm down, take charge of your life again.

We are all born with the survival skills, which include the ability to continue living even when times are bad. We all know about the different stress management techniques and how they can help us cope with stress. We also know about the stressor's and how to avoid them.

These stressor's include all the common problems that life throws at us each and every day of our life. How does one person handle stress better then the other when dealing with stress. 

When you feel stressed do you sometimes head for the alcohol, telling yourself that after all you have been through you deserve a good drink. Do you take it out on your family or loved ones, maybe even when you are at work. Do you turn to food.  

What ever you turn to or how ever you cope all you are doing is subduing the problem.  You are not facing what it is that is making you that stressed.

If you turn to the drink it doesn't mean you have an alcohol problem, yet. What you do have is a failure in how you handle your stress. Something is lacking so you need to review how you deal with the problems you have. 

Start by asking yourself what that problem is. 

How do we manage the stress we have.

Being positive, think positively. Take control of your life and the stress and anxiety you have and learn effective techniques to handle that stress.

Relax. Start by removing the tension in order to reduce the physical sensations of stress. If you have no tension your mind tends to be more relaxed.

This in turn will help you concentrate more, make better decisions, you will solve problems better. When we are relaxed, we can see each task as a  challenge, and not as a stressor.

You need to look after yourself and be kinder to yourself. Have more me time, do what you want to do, when you want to do it.  

Do nothing and relax and do not feel guilty about doing that. Have a hot bath, meet friends, read a book, have a massage, do something just form you.  

Stand back and confront the problem. Look at it in small manageable parts. Talk it through with someone. Avoiding it will not make it go away but it will make it worse.

How many people leave things to the last minute, don't that's a major source of stress.  

Doing some sports or any type of physical activity will help you to distress and relax. Doing any sort of activity will make you have a sense of well-being.

 Talk, write, shout, or paint about your stress. When you express your feelings this can help to relieve the stress.

Saying you have a problem in the first place will help you to deal with it.