Work, Love and Relationships

How does work affect our love and relationships? These days it takes an entire family to work together to make ends meet. When families work together, they produce a healthy relationship built on love. On the other hand, work can bring down a home.

Work, work, work, that is all you seem to care about, what about me… Have you said this or as someone said this to you. When work interferes with relationships the partner on trial needs to step back and ask themselves, which direction am I heading?

What is the purpose? Are you spending quality time with your family and partner? Does your partner and or family take second place to your work? Ask yourself what is more important to you?

When you have taken the time to analyze this, you will realize what it is your partner or family have been trying to tell you. As humans, we need to feel loved. Love includes the feeling of closeness and intimacy and time spent together.

Intimacy is much deeper than the sexual gratification. When two people have that intimacy, the goal is to provide satisfaction to both the mind and body. The intimacy we share also means to share ideas, opinions, thoughts, emotions, all the things we hold dear to us.

What is it you do when you are not working? Many women have complained that when their partner arrives home from work, after the initial hello how was your day and how are the kids. They will often sit on the couch in front of the television after dinner and focuses their attention just on the tv. 

This is not considering, respecting, caring or loving for your partner. Women, as well as men need love too, and love does not mean dishing out the need on your terms.

A true loving partnership will consider the other partner on all decisions that are to be made, unless the decision is out of that persons boundary.

If you only talk about your work, what is it that you and your partner are sharing? Yes you will at times need to talk about your work and any problems that arise but not all the time. If that is the case you will begin to question if you have anything in common anymore.

Keeping the chain of communication open can benefit the relationship.

Complaining is another problem that breaks down relationships. How we complain makes or breaks that problem, since some people have the wrong view or misinterpretation of when there partner complains.

When your partner is addressing issues nicely and considering you while making the issues known,  this is not a complaining action, rather it is a loving gesture.

When a person is repeating, reciting, or constantly making the same complaint repeatedly, this is seen as nagging that will only send the other partner to the roof.

When bringing issues to the front a partner will consider the person in question and this is visual in the following example.

If you talk to your partner in a loving way and say what the problems are you will get a better response. If on the other hand you jump straight in and start having a go, you will meet with a brick wall. 

Next time you want to get something a cross to your partner think about how you are going to do that.